Only now that I am happily married do I understand why my parents were so keen on me marrying a Sikh.

Everything just clicked into place, he got me like no one else could”.

As time goes on, my parents will surely become more open and accepting of new age dating, but will no doubt be set in their ways and I wouldn’t change them for the world.

For me, I would want to marry someone who is of the same caste and religion as it makes for an easier life but also because I don’t want my culture to die out.

Me and a friend often have discussions about caste.

He is a Tharkhan and I am a Jatt, and traditionally, my caste is seen as a higher.

Despite that, we have a great friendship, which begs the question, if you can be good friends with someone of a different caste why can’t I have a successful relationship with someone of a different caste as well?

My friend has an interesting opinion on the matter: “My mum would prefer if I got married to a Sikh, and I would want to marry a Sikh but I don’t care what caste.

In the world of a British Indian we are closed books when it comes to dating.

Unless we are ready to take the next step of marriage, we usually have to be discreet about our relationships, due to the pressures that will come from our elders.

And while caste issues still exist in dating culture, thankfully, they are slowly dying out.

However, one key point to note is that caste discrimination and Sikhism are not hand in hand and are actually two separate entities which just makes the whole thing even more frustrating.

This would also result in there being no culture clash that could occur if I was to date someone of a different race or religion and any future child having to grow up with two conflicting view points.