You are destined to be with her, and God will guide you to her." Good luck finding this one in the Bible.

There is plenty of stuff about God's will for his people, God wanting good things for you, and God's ultimate plan.

Some Christians take a lot of comfort in the idea that God will do the heavy lifting when it comes to dating.

There are plenty of them, but let's focus on what I believe are the top five myths that make dating harder for Christian men.

Myth #1: "God has one woman picked out for you to marry.

Whom you married wasn't even up to you most of the time.

Falling in love before you got married or engaged is a twentieth–century concept. In college, I had an older professor from Japan whose marriage had been arranged.

" (No, that wasn't a suggestion for you to set up an arranged marriage.) For the Hebrews and the early church, dating wasn't an issue to be addressed in Scripture. When the Bible was written, a person basically had one of three options: remaining single, an amoral life with multiple partners or prostitutes, or an arranged marriage.

There were courtship rituals in place, but nothing that looks like what we consider dating today.

All they have to do is sit back and enjoy the ride.

This may be the biggest excuse men use for being lazy in relationships, much less finding one.

There are some myths out there that people assume to be gospel about dating.

Christian culture is like any other in that we develop truisms that we accept without verifying.

There are things floating around that have little or nothing to do with the Bible.