At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex.

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A statement that often accompanies women's complaints about not getting the men they want is something to the effect of "I know I am a catch. The reason for this is simple: your self-perception of your potential is roughly accurate, but you aren't living up to that potential. You know you can be a fun and exciting person to be around when you feel comfortable, but you haven't confronted your insecurity in social situations, so men don't realize this.

You know you have a great figure, but you haven't learned yet to show it off by correcting your posture, so no one notices it.

We know the inner workings of our own mind: how honest we are, how prone we are to mood swings, our insecurities and strengths, what we've experienced, what we still need to learn, the strength of our ambitions, etc.

This translates into an excellent knowledge of our personal capabilities, our personal potential.

I've illustrated an example of this in the diagram below.

A woman who is a 5.5 out of 10 has the potential to be a 7.5, so she "knows" that she can get men of that caliber (), and she is constantly being rejected by them.You know you have great hair, but you don't put the effort in to style it well, so it does you little good.You know you are pretty, but you haven't confronted your fear of looking a little awkward, and this has dramatically slowed your efforts at learning how to dress yourself well.The reason women can't get what they think they deserve is that we (men and women alike) always peg our standards to what we know we can be, not to what we are, while members of the opposite sex judge us - understandably - only on what we are currently.They have no access to the inner workings of our mind; and even if they did, they would have no guarantee that we'd ever reach the potential this would reveal to them.So I thought I’d give my take on dressing in semi- or totally-sheer looks for the office, compared against her tale… “Yesterday I knew I wouldn’t have the chance to stop home after work before going out that night, so I wore this completely see-through, sparkly Isabel Marant top with a tuxedo jacket.” Dear readers, there are these amazing things called “handbags” — sometimes called “purses,” “totes,” “briefcases,” or even just “bags” — into which you can put all sorts of things, including changes of clothes.