You can pick up a heroin addiction, drop out of high school, rob a bank or decide to write the great American novel financing yourself on your credit cards. You can go to rehab, get your GED, get parole, and pay off those cards. A modern man doesn’t turn up his nose at a woman with some sexual experience who might have learned a trick or two from previous lovers about what men REALLY like, or more likely, she learned how to FIND OUT, but the majority of men would like to see a NEW sign on her uterus. When a man picks a wife, he wants to know he won’t be competing with some random babydaddy who was there before him. A great wife and mother places the needs and happiness of her husband and children ABOVE her own needs, and in doing so, finds her greatest happiness. But a woman who makes YOU the center of her life is going to be a great wife. Oh, that’s the story she’ll spin for you, because really, what women is going to sit there and say “I’m an unbearably controlling and irrational cunt who made my husband’s life such hell he decided he would rather be a weekend Dad than spend one more second with me”. What kind of delusional self-image does a woman have, if she can fall for a con artist with a gambling habit that would shame Charlie Sheen?

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Or at least that’s what a lot of guys tend to think.

There's been a stigma attached to dating a woman with kids on the dating scene for a long time now, and all without good cause.

These women have been emotionally abused, disappointed, betrayed and they are just so hard-wired to not get hurt again. By setting unattainable standards (fantasy man) they ensure they will never again let somebody close enough to them to hurt them again.

But then, I only took one psych course in college……I like to keep things simple.

She’s a much better writer than we have on the guy’s side of things!

Bobbi brings up things I would never have thought of.

OK, Ladies, you want the honest, real, unvarnished truth about what a commitment minded, nice, cute, professional, divorced 54-year-old man really wants from you? As a guy she’s been a tremendous help in terms of understanding and relating to women in the 50 age group.

You also know that understanding men is a key to finally writing your own grownup love story. LM really says it best, so here is what he has to say after reading about the various types of 40 single women, called my Please thank Bobbi on my behalf.

I’m no slouch: tall, trim, own my own business, nice guy to a fault. “L, you are kind, decent, funny, and attractive but I just don’t feel enough “electricity” (aka infatuation) so I’m going to have to end it.”The biggest obstacle I face it is meeting this expectation of “rock me to my soul connection” fantasy man that even they can’t explain.