A few more dates happen and it seems like a monogamous relationship might be on the horizon. He might respond favorably at first, but the more reassurance she needs and the more energy she starts pouring into the relationship, the more he feels the weight of her feelings bearing down on him.

As things between them start to deepen, all of the sudden, it occurs to the woman that he might be “The One” (if not with this exact terminology, at that level of seriousness at least). Her hopes and dreams suddenly seem to have led her to THIS moment with THIS guy. Very suddenly, it’s “oh sh*t, this woman REALLY likes me.

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You don't have to keep dealing with guys who break your heart by ghosting you or disappearing.

“Why is it that a guy fiercely pursues a woman at first, and then when he finds out she is actually interested he is not so sure if he is interested anymore? For background, I’m 29, live in Australia, and I’ve been on 5 dates with this guy so far but we haven’t kissed yet.” — Sheila Well well.

First, let’s talk about some differences between men and women when they decide to pull the plug on a relationship in the early phases.

When a woman loses interest in a man or decides he’s wrong for her, she usually knows exactly why.

There he was, totally interested, looking dapper in his buffalo skin while nonchalantly swinging his club at the cave entrance, offering you some freshly killed mastodon meat. What, if anything, could you have done differently?

There he was, showing up outside your castle window every day in his mostly shiny but frankly also a little rusty armor, strumming his lute and warbling his troubadour songs. Now, I don’t know exactly what was going on in your particular situation, Sheila, since I wasn’t there.And then his interest wanes and he starts treating her like an option instead of a priority? An excellent question that has been posed by women since time immemorial. How do you get a guy to treat you like priority instead of an option?Until finally, he’s either just texting her in the middle of the night or not at all.He might respond to her politely — even though the guilt has started to set in.Then, after what feels like a super intense connection and budding relationship, suddenly he cools WAY off.