Dating with russian girls
This is an area where you can really shine against Russian men.
Not to generalize too much, but many Russian men can be quite rough, and you can stand out by being considerate, compassionate, and generally making sure she’s comfortable, happy, and listened-to.
The ideal to strive for is ensuring your female companion is carrying nothing except her purse. Compared to their Western counterparts, Russian women are more open to male chivalry – and are more likely to expect it from you. In Russia giving flowers in even numbers is only considered appropriate for funerals, although modern florists claim you’ll be fine as long as the total number exceeds a dozen.
So, here are a couple of essential rules you’ll want to follow if you want to get a second date. If you’re addressing a Russian woman you don’t know in Russian, there is only one appropriate term for it and it is “devushka,” which means “young woman.” And yes, even if the woman in question is in her late fifties, she would still be a “devushka.” Any other form of address would not just upset her, but could also be seen as an insult. In Russia, a woman expects you to pick up the bill on dates even when she is technically the one that invited you and even if you ordered a cup of coffee while she enjoyed a five-course meal with dessert.
Yes, in Paris or New York, people tend to go halfsies on a bill.
If nothing scares you off and you decide to marry her, go ahead and read some Tolstoy and Dostoevsky.
If you are not Russian and interested in dating a Russian girl, you may need a bit of an instruction manual.
Finally, Russian men are famous for their affinity for giving flowers – in Russian society, flowers are bought for almost any festive occasion.
Russian women will appreciate you bringing her bouquets on birthdays, celebrations, and once in a while, just because.
While the basic rules of dating etiquette obviously apply, there are a few quirks that Russian girls have that sometimes create conflict between girls from Russia and men from the West (trust me, I know from experience!
) There are several things that Russian women dislike about Russian men – which gives you the opportunity to play up your differences.
This means that you should be accepting of whichever way she decides to live her life – whether she wants to be a career woman, a homemaker, or a mix of both; never be dismissive of any of these lifestyle choices.
On a smaller scale, you can also demonstrate this by being willing to cook and clean – not expecting her to always do it as many Russian men do.
Keep it at a good balance, but especially at the beginning of a relationship, you want to make sure that you take control when necessary.