Her take: “While out with friends, I met a guy who lived 100 miles away.We talked, texted, and connected online almost daily until we could see each other again two months later.

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“Allison may have had a sense of intimacy that was never there in the first place, while he was probably dating other people,” he says.

Don’t assume someone is going to be committed unless you’ve talked about it.

These miles tend to happen around the three-month point, so use them to see how strong your relationship is, Coffey suggests.

If one of you is ready to meet the parents or take a short trip together and the other isn’t, that’s a good indication that you’re not on the same page and this might not work out, she says.

It’s also easy to build up a fantasy of what someone is like when you’re long distance.

“The weekend didn’t live up to your expectations—but what really happened is that this guy didn’t live up to the expectations that you had created over the prior few months,” says Lissa Coffey, relationship expert and author of Her take: “I used a dating site a few years ago and was linked up with someone that didn't have a photo on his profile.

Her take: “I went out with a guy I met online who seemed really sweet and charming. A few days later, he texts me to say that he isn't looking for a girlfriend—just casual sex.

I felt cheated and hurt.” -Andrea C., 31Expert take: Even if a guy doesn’t say straight out in his profile that he’s only looking for hook-ups, some will offer hints.

D., co-author of Her take: “The first guy I dated when I moved to New York let me take care of him, which I thought would lead to a relationship.