Speak up, says Amy Cananday, public relations manager for Match.com, the Dallas company that pioneered online dating."We encourage our members to never share their credit card information with another member on the site and report suspicious activity immediately." Falzone, though, recognizes that it can take more than caution to stay safe when conversing over the Internet.

For example, Protect My ID scans the Internet daily, searching for fraudulent use of Social Security numbers and credit and debit accounts.

If they spot illicit activity, they'll alert the member.

Their members all go through criminal background checks, but filtering fraud is not guaranteed.

e Love is making an extra effort, however, with a new product called e Love Select.

"Some questions seem innocent, like asking what your mother's name is or what your parents do for a living.

They may ask for your home or work address to send you a gift." Such tidbits are invaluable currency for identity thieves.Don't publish your phone number or birth date, as that information can be used to perpetuate ID theft.Siciliano believes credit monitoring services can help make sure accounts aren't tampered with while dating online.Scams vary Falzone contends that convincing people to charge up their credit cards is surprisingly easy.The thief will befriend an online dater, then "using stolen credit cards, he'll send jewelry, roses and claim he's traveling.While most people using online dating websites are genuine, charlatans comprise an uncomfortable proportion.