I don't usually start off a post with the impact points right at the beginning.

But I want to lay these out first -- because they're so vital to solid message writing -- and we'll get into the "whys" and the "hows" in a moment.

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For more advice, please see our Staying Safe guide.

The aim of all this chatting is, of course, to find someone with whom you can go on an offline date - perhaps kick starting a relationship with real, long-term potential.

However, for your own peace of mind and sense of comfort, it's usually wise to wait a while before suggesting that you meet in person. As discussed in our online dating tips article, researchers at the University of Florida recently hypothesised that the ideal period between first message and first meeting is 17 -23 days. D, writing for Psychology Today, The Art of Listening: How Open Are Your Ears?

Found at Claire Cohen, writing for the Telegraph ‘Online dating tipping point: When should you meet in person?

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone.

So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating.

You can easily check this on their profile by taking note of the coloured circles next to the names in your partner suggestions folder.

A green circle means that they will have logged on to Elite Singles in the last 24 hours.

Remember that you are here to sell yourself; so, rather than illustrating why someone probably won’t message you back, think like a salesperson and show off your best side.