Anyway, I try to think about what you’ve said about your wife, how at the beginning she wasn’t the type of girl you were used to dating…And I’ve followed every step you talk about when it comes to her, “to be cool, calm, and collected…”From day one, this guy and I had a great chemistry, in the sense that we truly enjoy each other’s company.A man who wants commitment will move the relationship forward, and the guy who is just not ready will let you get away. Let a guy know how you are feeling and what you are looking for.

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Men tend to be easily lulled into laziness or else prompted by a call to action.

If he wants to be with you and to move the relationship to the next level, he will ask for your attention and to give him the opportunity to choose to pursue you each day, be it with a phone call or planning a date. If you sense that he is making no effort to move the relationship forward, then it’s not unreasonable to say, “We need to talk about this because I want certain things, and I don’t get the sense that we are on the same page.” At the end of the day, I don’t think any woman needs to wait around for a man who is not ready and has no plans to be. If there’s one thing I’ve learned in my dating experiences, it’s the importance of honesty and openness.

I mean let him take the initiative, and in the meantime, plan time for friends, family, and hobbies—pull your laser focus off of him for a while.

If it feels like he is drifting away, make it clear by where you invest your time that the possibility of losing you is very real—because it should be very real.

He is the one that calls me (even if I’m like dying to call, I wait for his call,) he is the one that talks about seeing each other and so on…

(No sex yet, as I want to get to know him a little better.) Well, last night he told me that he’s starting to genuinely like me, and that concerned him, because as perfect as that is, it’s not a good idea…. I really like this guy and don’t want to mess things up!

But now I’m extremely puzzled and need your advice.

Less than a month ago, I started dating a guy who, according to my mother, I shouldn’t even be dating because he’s “way too good looking” and “guys like that” don’t like to be in steady relationships.

And that’s because I’ve been in situations where it became all too clear, all too late, that my beau and I weren’t on the same page.