Another way to lead your partner into it if you’re both feeling awkward, is to set up a roleplay scenario. For example, “Remember when we were in Aruba and I was teasing you on the beach with my cleavage and later the sex was soooo hot?

Lauren suggests, “Imagine I’m a sex robot you can program to do whatever you want. Imagine if I had done [insert alternative sexy activity].” Some jumping off points, should you need: “What if you realized I was wearing a strap-on under my bikini?

Treating phone sex as sexy little appetizing pieces can help take some of the pressure off.

Read on for general advice — and most importantly — straight-up lines of dialogue you can steal and put in your back pocket.

You know how Spotify free is like, SO GOOD until you hit an ad and inevitably hand over your credit card number for premium?

Be sure you trust your partner and that he/she won’t weaponize them against you later.

Lauren says if you can’t answer quickly and strongly YES to the question, “do I trust my partner? Safe, sane, and consensual is the motto to keep in mind.

Maybe you hate the outdoors and would never in a million years be caught doing watersports.

There’s nothing stopping you from exploring a phone sex fantasy of getting it on in a raft in the lake when the lake..in your mind.

Phone sex is a great platform for testing the waters for your secret fantasies.

Say something like, “I confess I’ve always wanted you to go down on me while I rant about that totally passive aggressive thing my roommate did” or “I confess that I fantasize about understanding what a vaginal orgasm feels like.” Finding out your partner’s “confessions” are, can be great fodder for future phone sex fantasies.

Try sending off a “can’t wait to hear your voice tonight,” to leave them wanting more.

And feel free to use a pet bedroom name if you have one.

Think of as many different scenarios as you can: the library, the back of your car, Paris, in an airplane, at a Costco, etc.