In particular, non-Japanese guys tend to disagree because they don’t think it’s easy to date Japanese girls. Overall, does it mean that it’s hard to date Japanese people regardless of your gender? If you are in a foreign country with a completely different culture, it is logical that you might have a hard time dating.

Dating often involves a lot of hidden rules and non-verbal cues.

On my last page, I told him that it’s his story now and that there are still many white pages that can be filled.’ It might be obvious to many people but doing all this to a guy who is not interested (and possibly not used to dealing with girls) is not only ineffective but also counterproductive. If he was experienced in dating, he could have said something like, ‘I know that you are interested in me but I just don’t see you that way.

She seems to be clueless in situations where her charisma doesn’t work as expected.

‘I fell in love with one Japanese boy in my research team.

To be fair, I used to feel that most kids of my age weren’t mature enough.

I am less judgemental now because I realise that I might simply have had a differently way of measuring maturity. Isabel, a German girl who has been living in Japan for about half a year, is a good example.

Because it was his birthday I decided to go for a final attack and made a personal present for him.’ Her strategy was ‘push, push and push’, which was obviously not working. ‘I bought an empty book and filled it with the story of my love for him.

How I fell in love with him and about all the things I like about him.I’m currently the only Western female student here, so I get quite some attention, even from other foreign students.But Japanese guys are still a big mystery to me’, she writes.‘In Germany I never been single for longer than a few months, I had never had problems about dating a guy.I’ve been living here since 6 months now and I didn’t have a serious date yet.I wrote him many cute love letters in Japanese and English but he didn’t reply for many months.