So, six years ago, she started dating studs in their 20s and 30s — and she hasn’t looked back.

“Younger guys tend to be more active, have less baggage,” says Soletti, an event planner who regularly hosts dating mixers.

When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.

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“When you’re an ambitious woman, it’s very difficult — you either have to subsume what you wanna do for somebody else, or live with the struggle to fight your partner on top of business survival, and it’s a very unhealthy relationship,” says Nicole Wipp, a 45-year-old attorney and entrepreneur, who found a perfect match in her husband, Marcus Sutherland, a 33-year-old paramedic.

“Dating somebody younger than myself, there’s an acceptance of ambitious women — it’s more normalized.” They met at the University of Hawaii in November 2002, when she was a law student and he was a sophomore undergraduate.

Black men are my preference, followed closely by other people of the sun.

But if I meet a white man who reminds me of my father, who genuinely believes Black Lives Matter, too — and knows the words to “Shakedown Street” — I’m open. READ MORE: I want a lover, not a boyfriend Done right, benefits can make a friendship stronger I’m a black woman who doesn’t date black men.

All seem no more or less happy than other couples I know.

I had no good reason why white guys were off my romantic radar. Men who have protected and supported me through some of the darkest days of my life. I might even spend an evening charming some former frat bros at the bar for my personal amusement. It was just there in the back of my mind: I can hang out, work with, live next to and even call white men friends, but I don’t date them. Made me feel a bit hypocritical and narrow-minded, two states I actively work to avoid. One is named after Nathan Bedford Forrest, a lieutenant general in the Confederate Army. Both are men I would trust to raise and protect my son should the need arise. Or wonder whether Justin Timberlake’s prowess on the dance floor translated into, well, other areas. It was not a hard-and-fast rule, as in: I don’t date white guys.They were introduced by Sutherland’s sister, who was one of Wipp’s law school classmates, at a beachside barbecue.Wipp was immediately attracted to Sutherland’s youthful energy, which was a far cry from the cynical guys closer to her age.“I love that she loves me so much, and that I mean a lot to her,” says Sutherland.