"Every time some famous man is on display with his White woman, a lot of my friends will have something negative to say or something that seems like they feel betrayed, as if that man is a representation of all Black men," Brooks says.

Thankfully, she has armed herself with the data that more than 70 percent of Black men are married to Black women.

What can be even more disheartening than seeing your beautiful, professional, well-educated sisterfriend still unattached is seeing a successful Black man settle down with someone of another ethnic group.

"These are professional people who work with all races and ethnicities. They were supportive in the end, but we still have issues today."Meador, who describes herself as a "chocolate, thick girl with locs," says she and her husband, Michael, 31, have clashed with her pals.

She and her best friend even stopped talking for a month over a disagreement about something Michael, a Republican, had posted on Facebook."[My friends] said, "Asia, you were so down for the cause." I'm like, "I'm not down for the cause anymore?

The ruling ultimately overturned the ban on interracial marriages.

This fall Focus Features released a movie about Richard and Mildred's journey to legally marry.

"I knew we were going to have struggles as an interracial couple. He was willing to give up those relatives."Eventually some relatives came around and even danced at the wedding. They didn't attend the marriage ceremony, and Michael hasn't spoken to them in two years.

Things may be improving: The Meadors celebrated their first anniversary in August, and Michael's mother has invited them to spend Christmas in Mississippi with the family.

It's complicated Toya Lachon, 43, of Washington, D.

C., says she feels frustrated, hurt and even betrayed when she sees Black men with women of other races, but happy when she sees Black women in an interracial relationship."I'm like, Yes, girl, do that," says Lachon. Women are taking control of their happiness."Dating interracially can still come with backlash for both Black men and women.

During their college days at the University of Pittsburgh, some Black male friends of Merrian Brooks, 33, would say they didn't know any Black women who were as attractive as White women."Some of the men I really respected would exclusively date White women," she says.

"It felt like confirmation of my insecurity as a dark-skinned Black woman who was single."But Brooks, a pediatrician, says she no longer cares who Black men date.

"There are some who really think that White or non-Black women are superior," Brooks says.