Maybe your ex shares custody and gives you weekends off, but I think we can all agree that women with four kids have less available time than women without four kids.

And if the greatest gift a woman can give a man is her time, who are men going to gravitate towards – the harried mom who has to manage four lunches, babysitters, soccer practice, and bedtime routines – or the one who is blissfully unencumbered by such essential responsibilities?

I was married for ten years, have four beautiful boys under 9 and have a very fulfilling and successful career.

but dating when you have FOUR kids is like the Mt Everest of the dating world!

It seems almost impossible for men to see past that.

So instead of giving up on the whole thing – which, as you know – is incredibly shortsighted, given that you have 50 more years on this earth, how about you change focus?

Middle-aged divorced men understand what it’s like to be you.

Well, let me clarify: I have no shortage of “dates”. I have an outgoing personality and seem to be asked out a lot…

I guess I must be in reasonable shape because NOBODY can guess I’ve even had four kids, or that I’m even 34 (I get asked out by guys in their early 20s- I feel like I should read them a story and tuck them into bed… we usually go on a few dates, everything is going wonderful… I’m not talking about church bells, but just to an actual relationship. I am sick of being treated like a piece of ass, and treated like I must be desperate because I have kids.

Ultimately, all I wanted from that single mom was to hook up, because that’s all I felt she could give me.

Whether it’s fair or not is debatable, but that’s how I felt at the time.

Dear Christina, Before I give you the pep talk you need, let me first acknowledge the painful truths that you’ve eloquently outlined above. Having four kids under the age of 9 is a huge handicap.

I’d try to spin it in a slightly more positive way, but I can’t.

I am seriously at the point of giving up on the whole dating thing…