The first woman I ever fell in love with was 20 years older than me.Her name was Judith and she worked as a matron at my boarding school.Ann cut through my insecurities and uncertainties, assuring me her love depended not on what I was, but who I was.

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On occasion, my more conventional friends would question how long a relationship like ours could last.

They joshed about desperate, predatory cougars, but what they failed to grasp was that her maturity and solvency meant she no longer had to worry about judging men along shallow lines such as bank balance and career status.

Her quiet confidence and unflappable nature helped me mature as a man.

I’m not sure that would have happened if I’d continued floundering around with flaky women my own age.

Like many boarding school boys forcibly removed from their mother at an early age, I tended to place women on unfeasibly high pedestals.

With her statuesque figure and alabaster skin, Judith wouldn’t have looked out of place atop a Doric column.

It was all very innocent of course but that didn’t stop me from posting love notes under her door at night.

My attraction for older women stayed with me long after I’d left school.

She’d reached the fortunate position of being able to choose a man she actually liked rather than one who ticked boring, predictable boxes. While the traditional template of older man/younger woman still dominates, there appears to have been a shift.