Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. Several women I have been chatting with lately have been a bit strange. Like an earlier poster said, to raise confidence I guess. Typical inaccurate generalization by the unsuccessful. (shakes head) I almost always mention meeting by the 3rd message or have them on the phone by then. They almost always respond positively, want to meet, plan the date, and they all actually show up, and look like their pics.

Asked me at least 4 times to come meet up with her. Looking within, I guess I should pull my lip up over my head and swallow so as to rid the world of myself.

Integrity, honesty, decency, and any other flattering descriptor you can come up with for a person is RARE on POF. Then you have the delusional, the know it all's, the serial daters, the freaks, all smothering the people who are actually serious. If you are an ***hole, you'll still be an ***hole on a pay site, leopard doesn't change his spots. It is so very easy to lie on the internet, especially if your intent is to just get laid.

Why they disappear is only known to them, and you never see anyone here posting about WHY they just disappear do you?

That may very well be the longest post I have ever made. Typical inaccurate generalization by the unsuccessful. (shakes head) I almost always mention meeting by the 3rd message or have them on the phone by then. They almost always respond positively, want to meet, plan the date, and they all actually show up, and look like their pics.

So I really don't know what to tell you - are you being pushy in some way about the meeting? People are flakey though just put it down to experience and move on. I can't say I've had that problem, a few I have just carried on conversations with, a couple seemed like they wanted to push it along faster and initiated messages everyday, so I went ahead and ask them out.

There tons of folks...their own reasons....just want an email romance. "If you're not to busy this week, would you like to meet up and grab a bite to eat or a drink? But, that was the end of the conversation with her.OP, There's a lot of time wasters on these sites, that's why I lose interest if we don't exchange numbers within 3 days, or we don't meet within 10 days (assuming she can't meet that same week)That is a ridiculous statement.If you're saying that there are NO flighty people on here who are totally indecisive, talk to way too many people at once or just disappear for no reason, you're wrong. Speaking to them on the phone 1 night, THEM asking me to come meet them THAT night, me having to decline because I was well, running a fever of 104, nothing serious really. So, if you're saying I should look within for the answer to this, I guess I shouldn't get sick.For me, 2 weeks of chatting isn't suffice or warrant a date. And if u meet too soon, well then ppl miss take it for a quick hook up. It's dangerous world out there for women I have the same thing happen to me.I was just telling someone that men will talk to me about interests we have in common, how much fun it would be to do some things we like together and go on and on like that for several days.And this is the perfect way for someone with that trait to operate.