Because of all that I’ve seen couples who got divorced, even when there were kids involved.

I noticed that those kind of relationships seem to work out better if they live in his home country and not in Japan.

Most foreign men on the other hand, have no issues approaching a Japanese woman in English – or even in broken Japanese.

These are just a few theories by friends, co-workers and myself.

For foreign women it’s a completely different story.

Japanese men seem to expect certain things from a woman.

I’m sure you have your own and there’s much more behind all this, but that’s it for starters, I guess.

As a result, dating in Japan is usually quite easy for men.

For some reason (maybe through the consumption of too many Hollywood movies) Japanese women think that foreign men are like that!

They’re not afraid of showing their feelings in public or telling their girls flat out how they feel about them. The extreme version of this is known as “gaijin hunter” and some will do everything for the sake of having one of those adorable “half”-kids (half Western, half Japanese) just to toss their foreign guy later on.

Maybe they also think that a foreign woman might expect from their man that he’s telling his feelings straight out several times a day, something a shy Japanese man just won’t do.

Another problem is that many of the Japanese men seem to be afraid of their English ability and thus fail to approach a foreign woman.

In relationships where the man is foreign I noticed that they mostly speak his native language.