Amy behaved like a human who happens to have a penchant for data, but she didn’t behave like the kind of algorithm sites like e Harmony and Ok Cupid are using to suggest potential dates to you.

At the end of her TED talk, Amy concludes that “There is an algorithm for love, it’s just not the ones we’re being presented with.” This is obviously a fantastic sound bite, but I think it creates a false sense of reliance on algorithms.

6) Eventually fall in love with someone who seemingly meets and then ultimately exceeds your criteria—BECAUSE YOU CLICK IN PERSON, and because you’ve had enough data-driven analysis and measured exposure to lesser candidates that you recognize what value this person brings to the table, even if they weren’t someone you would have picked out of a lineup.

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In that vein, I think it’s important to keep in mind that a list of your Perfect Mate Metadata demands can exist, sure, but it has to be a list that can flex and get reexamined in a less obsessively data-driven lens, because we live in a world that’s far more subtle and nuanced than a Mensch spreadsheet.

I don’t think Amy would agree with me here; her spreadsheet approached worked great for her. But I’ve met and worked with oh so many singles for whom a list of qualifications has continually backfired.

4) Make sure every single damn photo of you is fantastically flattering yet realistic, and especially pay attention to the main one.

5) Go on a lot of different dates, including with people you don’t think you’ll necessarily end up in a relationship with.

At the end of her love story, Amy made this meticulous complicated number threshold and exactly ONE guy met her bar.

This one worked for her, which is fantastic, but I can tell you from experience (as a dater AND an online dating coach) that setting complicated requirement bars is often NOT the path to a data-driven happy ending. Amy sharply noted that online dating success is dependent on both great qualitative and great quantitative data.(That makes for a good slideshow, but not a good profile!) You’ve got to find non-clichéd ways to sound optimistic, funny, and charming in order to stand out; this is especially true for all guys and for older women.In most cases, specific details are the best way to stand out from other profiles, to seem more like a human than just a profile URL, and to reach users who are astute enough to tinker around with manual searches on specific terms or titles.Yes, it’s possible someone might be dismissive about your love of The English Patient (her example), but generally, if you annotate your media passions with something that shows a little wit or self-deprecation, or provides a window into your thought process, then you’re going to be able to win over those few skeptics, and your writing style will be a breath of fresh air compared to the many boring and boilerplate profiles out there.And hey, there are going to be a handful of people for whom Amy’s Way is a total home run.