I am not convinced that anyone is ever truly ready to get married.Readiness can become a carrot on a stick, an ideal that can never be achieved.

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It seems that my great grandparents’ rule forbidding my grandmother from going out with the same guy twice in a row was a common rule in those days.

The Greatest Generation was encouraged to date and discouraged from going steady while in middle school.

” my grandmother wondered every time the topic came up. They both obstinately held to the position that courtship was a foolish idea. As I grew older, I started to speak at homeschool conferences and events.

I talked with homeschool parents, students and alumni all over the country and started to see some challenges with making courtship work.

She went on to explain that there used to be a linguistic differentiation between “dating” and “going steady”.

“Going steady” meant you were going out with the same person multiple times in a row.

Marriage will always be a bit like jumping into a pool of cold water.

A humble realization that you are not ready and in need of God’s help may be the more healthy way to start a marriage.

Some of the specific challenges I identified were: So I founded Practical

Its purpose: to instigate a national conversation about how to make courtship more practical. Then couples who did get married through courtship started getting divorced.

“If I had only gone out with 3 or 4 guys I wouldn’t have known what I wanted in a husband,” she said.