You don't have to say a word and he'll be hooked.

The second caveat is that even a shy man has pride.

Though he knows his own limitations (as prescribed by his shyness), he also knows what a typical man is "supposed to do." So he recognizes, too, when you are doing it for him.

Aside from their innate male tendency to overlook anything that isn't spelled out in black and white, shy men will by default doubt any sign of your affection.

The reason for this is that shy men are more concerned with avoiding the social catastrophe of asking you out and failing than they are of getting you.

In other words, ask yourself "Am I attracted in spite of or because of his shyness? A very close friend of mine is extremely shy, and I know plenty of other guys that are shy. Shy guys, almost by definition, do not have the balls to initiate and pursue women.

" If you answer these questions sincerely and still want to date him, you then face the problem of making it happen - or rather, making him make it happen. They fall outside of the predator-prey model for sexual interactions that is assumed in the "don't initiate contact" rule.

If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset.

At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex.

So be careful about how much (and which) initiative you take.

Unfortunately there is no quantifiable or simple rule here, as his threshold for embarrassment will vary in proportion to his shyness and his pride, which are different in every man. Well, for starters, in the early stages, you will need to give him blatant signs of your interest.

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